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It is so hard to truly know someone through texting. It is an easy way for people to not have real relationships but still keep in touch. Some say its a great way to "get to know" someone before you go on an official date. I disagree with that!
Texts can be very deceiving. A guy can be very charming over text but a jerk in person. Also some guys are great texters but horrible conversation people. They come across as interesting, witty, etc but get them on the phone and you might as well be talking to yourself!
I met this one guy at a bar and he asked me for my number. He was very cute and I decided to give him my number. Looking back I wish I had written NO TEXTING above my phone number. Well I didn't, he began texting me the next day and everyday after until our date. I found his text messages very entertaining and got excited each time I got one. I would always try to write funny witty things back trying to come off casual.
Our texts had even started becoming a little "dirty" you might say. Now get your mind out of the gutter, I said a little dirty! Such as "wish you were in bed with me" and stuff like that. We texted for two whole weeks everyday until he finally asked me out on a date. Yes he did ask me on a date through a text message, I know red flag number one! Well people do say that love is blind.
On the night of our date I was only a little nervous because I felt like I already knew him. How could this date be bad? I kept thinking. He was cute and funny!
He arrived at my place and looked even hotter then I remembered. This could be the guy I would marry I thought until he asked me where I wanted to go. Shouldn't he have planned something? Oh well, I decided on a nice Italian restaurant in walking distance from my apartment. I began chatting on the walk and kept leaving silent pauses to see if he would join in but he never did. I even asked him questions and he gave one word answers back. Where was my guy? This could not be the right guy, my guy was funny and quick.How was I going to make it through awhole dinner with Mr. Mute? I wanted to run back to my apartment throw pjs on, grab a pint of ice cream out of the freezer and plop down on my couch.
Well I made it through a very silent and uncomfortable dinner. He spoke a little more as the night went on but still not much. By the time I got home I could hardly keep my eyes open. I was bored to tears and still wanting my ice cream.
He texted me the next day saying he had a great time and blah blah blah. I thought about writing back "Oh you did? Really? Because you never said a word Mr. Mute" but I didn't. I wrote back thank you for a nice evening but this wasn't going to work. Another one bites the dust.
Now do you see the problem with texting? The "texter" can re-read what they type before sending it. That makes them maybe not that quick or funny! Maybe his best friend was helping him type all of those messages to me. I will never know! I do know to be weary of texters from now on!
Ladies use the phone in the beginning to talk, not texting!
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